july 13. SEA. twenty free.
cancer sun. scorpio moon. leo rising.
Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
this is literally so insanely fucking important fucking hell fuckity fuckkkkkk
Books written by Latinx authors:
- Dreaming in Cuban by Cristina García
- How the Garcia Girls Lost their Accents by Julia Álvarez
- When I Was Puerto Rican by Esmeralda Santiago
- Across a Hundred Mountains by Reyna Grande
- We Were Here by Matt de la Peña
- The Green House by Mario Vargas Llosa
- Barrio Boy by Ernesto Galarza
- My Beloved World by Sonia Sotomayor
- The Tattooed Soldier by Héctor Tobar
- What Can(t) Wait by Ashley Hope Pérez
Laverne Cox and her mother on stage at the 2014 GLAAD Media Awards.
Laverne was honored with this year’s Stephen F. Kolzak Award, which is given to an openly LGBT member of the entertainment or media community for his or her work toward eliminating discrimination against the LGBT community. Previous winners include Ellen DeGeneres, Chaz Bono and Wanda Sykes.
Here’s the link for more information about the PS244 fundraising campaign.
Here’s the link to the GIVE IT ALL TO ME Library Collection at OutofPrintClothing.com.
Check it out! The good folks dropped me a line about this project last week, and I’m happy to boost for Library Week.
So hey, #education…
I love these. Love them. And for a great cause.
Today’s style inspiration: Louis Philippe de Gagoue.
Hailing from both Cameroon and Cote D’Ivoire, the self-described eclectic fashion stylist, blogger and personal shopper is currently based in Morocco after half a decade living in neighbouring Tunisia.
With a style all his own, there’s a sense of vintage cool, classic sartorialism and modern vibrancy in almost everything he wears. From Congolese sapeurs to traditional North African garments, there’s always a strong African influence in de Gagoue’s visual aesthetic.
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"The Untold Renaissance": Ikire Jones Spring/Summer 2014 Lookbook.
It’s all dapper hommes, suave strides and bold prints and patterns in Nigerian designer Wale Oyejide’s Spring/Summer 2014 lookbook for his brand Ikire Jones.
“This collection pays homage to 18th century textiles and tapestries while exploring the absence of persons of color in Medieval and Renaissance-era European art. Borrowing from the sampling method employed in hip hop culture, each reinvented piece tells an original narrative from the perspective of Africans who have been placed in an alien context. Through this reverse lens to the past, the present circumstances of individuals who feel displaced and alienated may also be considered.”
oh my god this is wonderful
Love these but WHOOOO they cost a pretty penny!
I don’t want to speak out of line, and please, if you feel comfortable, correct me in any way you see fit.
But I feel like this is an iconic and important moment.
THIS WAS THE MOTHA FUCKING T THOOOOOOO. LIKE MS. CARRERA YOU HAVE ARRIVEDDDDDDDD. this is like the tumblr awards.
Have been waiting for this gem for 15 years..I remember watching Style with Elsa Klensch’s report on Milan Fashion Week Fall/ Winter 1997 and being mesmorized a the Gianni Versace Collection. So modern, so elegant, minimal yet exiting. He changed his runway format from fashion concert to no supermodels except his beloved Naomi, with little make-up on the fresh girls and a simple presentation featuring wearable clothes inspired by contemporary art and light. The energy was still there in the bold casting and the techno metal mesh finale of course. I was also happy to see Elsa Benitez closed the show, my fave new girl at the time because she was from Mexico. The direction Gianni Versace was going was a bold new one, designers like Miuccia Prada and Tom Ford had ushered in a new kind of “minimal” luxe and it was interesting to see how the King of Excess was changing with the times. This is the Gianni Versace I remember the most, a very intellectual designer sharply focusing on tailoring, silhoutte, and use of color and light. Tragically this would be Gianni’s last Ready to Wear Collection, but we are left with these great images of a man and his craft at the top of his game, R.I.P Gianni Versace